Kindness Matters

40496329_580710779014538_5597924824438538240_nWhat is kindness?  This is a question I will be answering to be considered as part of an organization focused on bringing more kindness into our world.  As I first looked at the question, my reaction was “well, duh, everybody knows what it is.”  I then paused to really consider that response.  Does everyone really know what kindness is?  If that is truly the case, then are we just choosing who to be kind to and when to do so?  If we understand that speaking warmly to others instead of being critical and judgmental is part of being kind, why is there so much bitterness and bullying?  When faced with these questions, we become perfect blamethrowers.  It was our upbringing (or lack thereof), peer pressure, just my personality, rejection, and on and on the list could go of potential reasons to not be kind to others.  What is really the issue here and how do we get back to a place where values and integrity matter?  How many children need to suffer and become scarred adults before we realize the magnitude of the problem and that it really has a very simple solution?

Holding a door for someone is a sign of respect and an act of kindness.  Smiling at others, making eye contact and acknowledging them is also an act of kindness.  I could list many small random acts that can be done in the course of a day.  Yes, these will make a difference to the recipient as well as to the giver.  It creates a glow inside and that is where the change must come from.  We can’t sit around and wait for someone else to do it.  Speak to your neighbor, call your parents (and/or your children), turn off your cellphones and have a dinner conversation.  Let’s take our world back one kind act at a time.  Let’s give the children of today something real to emulate.  Mister Rogers had it right when he said, “There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”  What are you leaving? #IChooseKindness

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Know Yourself, Love Yourself and Change Your World

p02vf969Taking a break from outside distractions and spending the day with myself showed me a few things.  Yes, there was the impulse to reach for the mouse and with a few clicks be instantly connected to the hustle and bustle of social media.  There was also the impulse to pick up my phone and check messages.  I had huge arguments with myself that all started with but … things like “but what about the groups I administrate” and “but I always do this…”  Yes, the struggle is real.  We get so wrapped up in our ego monkey mind and letting it control what we do and when we do it that it gives us no time to be with ourselves.  We know who is on vacation and where, what others are eating, who got a new animal or lost a beloved pet all the while neglecting to schedule our own vacation or plan our meals or pay attention to our own furbabies … or just stop to smell the roses.

So, I smelled some roses today figuratively.  I took time to assess the direction I was going and how my life was progressing.  Barbara Marx Hubbard states “Ask to know what you are born to do. Follow the compass of joy.”  I took time to enjoy nature and became more centered through connecting with Mother Earth.  I listened to some very spiritually connected people making a whole lot of sense and had my soul fed.  I played with both my inner child and my two furbabies.  I took time to listen to a friend who was struggling and gave her my full attention, unimpeded by the distraction of the computer.  I laughed at myself.  I had fun being with me!  I looked in the mirror and asked “what do you want?”  I am so used to asking other people that and listening to their answers and yet when I asked that person in the mirror it was like a totally unique experience.  Suddenly, there was a gleam in my eyes.  I found myself intrigued that I was actually standing there waiting for the answer.  Wow.  What do I want?  It was an AHA moment.

Interestingly, after that interlude, I realized something very profound about desire.  When we are in the mode of wanting something, i.e., our desire, our focus is on that.  We are so intent on having to have it and then when it does materialize we relax from that intensity.  We “breathe” again.  There is happiness, bliss, joy.  What if we took the desire out of the mix?  What if our focus became that state of happiness, bliss and joy?  I’m not saying don’t want anything or strive for more of whatever your dreams are.  Instead, place the focus on the feeling of already having your desire.  Knowing what you want is only the first step, not the entire enchilada, although for some it becomes an obsession.  Once the “that” is established, then go within yourself and find the emotions connected with the fulfillment of that desire and let that be where your attention stays.  Whatever your “that” is, absorb it as a part of yourself.  You are the creator of your own reality; thus, you can make the statement, “I am that, I am” for whatever your “that” is.  In fact, doing this exercise with everything in your world, including people, will be a mind-blowing experience!

When you take time to really know yourself and all your wants/desires, your likes and dislikes, your idiosyncrasies, then you can begin to fall in love with yourself.  When you fall in love with yourself, you are going to want the best possible life for yourself.  That, my friends, will be the motivation for making your world a better place to live.  I am so grateful for all of you!  I love you.  Namaste

Peace, Be Still

cbdf879f5433950ac1a882a4ce58472bPeace, be still.  Can’t you feel the storms raging?  Last night the winds were so strong they moved the pool furniture around.  I stood out by the water and felt myself being moved about and I thought how life is like that sometimes if we allow it.  We can let the storms rage against us, tossing us one way or another or we can put our feet firmly on the ground, as I did last night, and say “peace, be still.”  I know I make this point quite often about how we each choose how to live our lives and I will probably make it another million times before I die, but it is because it is so important to understand.  Our minds are powerful – so powerful that if we use our imagination and tell ourselves we are in a very cold place and feel it deep inside of us, we will actually start shivering from being cold, even in the heat of summer.  If we tell ourselves and truly believe that we are abundant, we will not only feel and act as if we are but we will manifest those things or people in our lives that will bring abundance to us.  Top athletes use visualization methods to see themselves excelling at their sport.  Executives use visualization to advance their leaders and themselves to achieve success.  Inventors use visualization methods to give their brain the task of creating.  This is nothing new.  When we visualize ourselves as successful and abundant and healthy, our minds immediately go into creative mode to look for solutions that will match what we are imagining ourselves to be.  Our job is to be still and believe.  That’s it!  We are such magnificent co-creators with the universe but so many are looking at the winds raging and waiting for a savior to say “Peace, be still.”

Right now stop whatever you are doing and go look in the mirror.  Do it now, don’t wait.  Say to yourself, “I am a truly abundant being.”  Breathe.  Again, “I am a truly abundant being.”  Say it once more with confidence.  Now, carry that thought with you the rest of the day.  Marinate in it.  Let it go to the deepest part of your soul.  When the storms rage and the ego starts talking, simply say “Peace, be still.”  I love you.  Namaste

Dream A Little Dream

dreamI’ve always been fascinated with dreams – you know, that phenomenon that happens when we close our eyes to “rest.”  Sometimes I think it is God’s way of entertaining me so I just enjoy the movie but other times I wake up shaken and full of questions.  Was it real?  Did that really happen on another dimension and I just experienced it there?  No one can really answer definitively what dreams are all about though many have tried to do so.  Many of us search for answers when we have a disturbing dream or even an interesting or pleasant dream.  We look up the analysis of what it could mean.  There are those who never remember their dreams after awakening.  From what I understand, we all dream as our brain doesn’t have an “off” switch so it just makes sense it would use that time to play and create.  It usually happens during the deepest stages of sleep according to scientists.  Even Freud voiced his opinion that dreams were a way for people to satisfy urges and desires.  There are so many philosophies and interpretations about why we dream and what it means but I will stick with my own thought that God is entertaining me and my guides and angels are showing me messages and helping me to remember them.

Do you remember your dreams?  If it is something you want to train your brain to do, you can set an intention before you go to sleep that you will remember when you wake up.  You can keep a journal and pen by your bed to write down what you remember upon awakening.  The more you do this, the more you will start to remember.  Our minds are so powerful and when we ask a question the mind immediately goes to work to look for a solution.

Some say we are dreaming our lives as a collective dream.  What are your thoughts on that?  If you want your mind to be blown, check out this article about collective dreaming: http://www.spiritofmaat.com/archive/may3/schlitz.htm.  I’m still processing what I am learning about it.  I would love your comments.  Happy dreaming! Namaste

 

I Hear You Calling My Name

holy-spirit-best-bestI woke up to the sound of my name – not the name I have been known as for most of my life but the name I was given when I came into the world. At first I ignored it but it persisted, calling me out of my deep sleep. I looked around the room and my cat was sitting there looking at me.  While she does talk, she has never known me by that name. So I knew I had a visitor — someone that was reaching out to me – someone saying pay attention. It is one of those moments where you really have to be still ask yourself if that just happened. My next question was who are you and what do you want; how can I help you? The answer that I got was I am you and you are me. Not what I wanted to hear this early in the morning, so I closed my eyes to try to get a deeper connection. Again, I hear I am you and you are me. What does that mean?  Am I talking to myself from a different dimension, is it my higher self communicating with me, all these questions and yet I know inside what I have to do. I have to sit with myself and quieten my mind and say okay I’m ready. Talk to me, show me what it is that I need to know.

Once the ego steps aside and we are just quietly open to receiving, it is amazing what we hear.  Sometimes our spirit guides call our name, sometimes they gently nudge us on the shoulder or touch our hair but they persist until they get our attention.  I have been dealing with a lot of things lately including my physical recovery, so the fact that they were calling out to me reminded me that I need to take that quiet respite daily to hear them and let them guide me.  We all do.  Have you had your daily dose of spirit today?  I love you!  Namaste

I Understand

images snailIt was a language I was not familiar with so the sound intrigued me.  I listened intently for the inflections to indicate question, emotions, etc. and tuned in to what I imagined she might be saying.  I know that on some deep level my subconscious understood this, knew what the message was.  I so wanted to “get it” and respond but instead I stood there with a blank look on my face.  I could feel her frustration at not being able to communicate.  My thought was “I should be able to understand her since we are all connected through spirit.”  Immediately with that realization, a thought crossed my mind and I knew it was what she was trying to relay to me in her beautiful language.  I motioned toward a hallway and a huge smile appeared on her face.  She was so grateful and she also knew that it was a soul level connection and not that I miraculously comprehended her foreign language.  It was truly a beautiful moment.

In the Oneness of all that is, there is no need for words or interpretation.  We just connect our energies and relay our messages.  It is just that simple.  Our human brains and ego want to complicate it, doubts kick in and the word “can’t” keeps rearing its ugly head.  So seriously, learn to let go of the reins and use the mantra “I understand.”  Learn to just free yourself to receive the messages when they come and not question them.  Go with that first gut instinct and the first thing you hear.  Easy peasy.  I love you!  Namaste

It’s My Choice

22e29b1527d26d5866bae0962b6d860cToday is a most amazing day! It really is true that what you focus on expands. When we focus our attention on finding positive uplifting things, the universe always provides. When we make a conscious decision to be happy, we are happy. This does not mean that life is perfect or that there is no stress because that is always going to be there. It simply means that whatever comes our way we have already decided that happiness is the priority and that we can handle the daily stresses. Every day we pick and choose our battles. We make the decision of what we will react or respond to and what is just not that important. When we decide that something requires our attention, we can stop and analyze before we reply. In using our inner happiness as a guide, we can then decide if what is in front of us is something we wish to make a part of our reality and if so what will the outcome be in doing that. Once we realize that we have choices, our sense of self-worth increases. We no longer are tossed about by other people’s intrusion into our reality. We create our own reality.

When I say, “today is a most amazing day,” that is my choice. I can make choices about how I feel today, how I interact with others, how much I allow myself to be influenced by others. If I make my happiness top priority in my life, I will make the choices necessary to ensure that happiness exists.  Each of us has the ability to do this every day. Look at your day. What choices did you make that affected how you were feeling about yourself, about others, about the world? The simple awareness that we have choices, that we are in control of ourselves is what will determine our state of being happy or not. I choose happiness. I choose peace. I choose love. I love you. Namaste

Circle Rainbows

RainbowI was feeling a bit overwhelmed with my day so decided to unplug for a few minutes and go sit outside by the pool in the gorgeous weather.  I had my sunglasses on as it was quite bright and I love looking at clouds.  When I glanced upwards, I was surprised to see what looked like a rainbow but in a circle.  I took the glasses off and it was too bright to see anything other than white light so I put them back on and voila, there it was!  I continued to stare at this amazing circle of color as the sun weaved in and out of clouds.  I thought, did I create this in my mind because I am that magical and can create whatever I want to see or is it really there?  At that moment, the sun went behind a dark cloud and the circle rainbow went away almost as if to say, yes I am real to answer your question.

Life is magical and we can try to sift through the white light that blinds us to the beauty that is beyond it or not fight it, not question it but know and accept that what we are seeing is something that is part of our journey.  When we look at other beings who are in our little part of the world, sometimes their physical essence or their words and/or attitude is the barrier to the real beauty that lies just beyond, just as the brightness of the sun was the barrier to my circle rainbow.  Sometimes we need the sunglasses when we observe what is in front of us to sift through that barrier.  I choose to look through my sunglasses of love and acceptance to see the real person.  Will you join me in doing this for one day and see if it makes a difference?  You may find a circle rainbow of your own.  I love you!  Namaste

It’s My Time

hqdefault (5)We can’t wait for everything to get right or be right before we start our lives.  How many times have you said “I’ll do it when…..” and in your mind you knew that “when” was not going to happen?  When is now.  We are only guaranteed the very second we are living at this moment.  That is why it is said that time is an illusion or that it doesn’t even exist.  We as humans have developed this thing called “time” as a measure but somehow it has developed into a version of reality.  We think about how much time we have to do things or what time something will happen or where we need to be at a certain time.  Not many people stop and look at their situation and live in the moment because they are too busy trying to figure out what they are supposed to be doing with their time.

I’m wearing a shirt today that says “It’s Miller Time.”  Yes, I know it refers to an alcoholic beverage, one that I don’t even drink, but when I look at those words I choose to give it a more significant meaning.  It’s my time and I can do whatever I want to with my 86,400 seconds in my day and I will do it one second at a time.  Father Alfred D’Souza said “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin — real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way. Something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last in dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”

We all have the exact same amount of ticks on the clock if you choose to look at time that way.  Use each tick wisely today.  I challenge you to just close your eyes and sit quietly, forget schedules and demands on your “time” and see what it is your soul wants you to know about your life.  It is just as important or more so than any business meeting you will attend.  In fact, it is the most important business meeting you will attend.  I love you! Namaste

I’m Still Standing

holy-spirit-best-bestI used to play a video game called Frogger where you had to maneuver around obstacles and not get killed trying to cross the road.  It was only a game but my heart would pound when there were near misses, or near-death experiences.  If I played it enough, I got used to the patterns and knew when to try to cross the road and when to stay put and when the alligator would pop up in the water after I crossed the road.  We get used to the patterns in our own lives as well.  We figure out not to over-do it in extreme heat of summer, not to stand out in the lightning storm, not to let our bodies get depleted of food and water.  What we cannot predict, though, are those moments when life throws us a curve ball.  Sometimes we are just plugging along like the little Frogger guy, weaving in and out of traffic with our heart pounding and we miscalculate one thing that will smash us.  That is what happened to me this week.  I moved one item in my house, the cat bed, to a different location.  Just as I was ready to relax and call it a night I went to turn off the computer and there was the bed where it was not normally at, causing me to trip and smash onto the tile floor.  I heard the crack on the back of my head, knew it was bad, felt the blood rushing out of my body from my head wound and no one was there to help me out.  I didn’t have my phone nearby so there was no way to call for help.  In Frogger, the little guy gets another life after he’s smashed until all his lives are used up.  I remember thinking “I am not going to die like this. This is not the end” and everything in me called out for help because there was no way I could get up on my own.  For me to come up to my feet off a floor requires a lot of pushing or pulling onto an object because my knees are not strong.  There was nothing around me, just flat floor.  The next thing I knew, I was standing on my feet.  I cannot explain it because there is no explanation other than divine intervention.  I knew the cut was bad, blood was going everywhere and I knew it had to be stopped so I walked to the bathroom and got a towel to stop the bleeding.  When I felt the back of my head, I knew it was split wide open, which they confirmed in the ER and placed 8 staples to put Humpty Dumpty back together again.

When we are in the moment of a near-death experience we have choices.  I could have chosen to just give up, lay there and bleed out and let that be it.  Lights out.  Something inside me said no, not now.  I have so much left to do.  I choose to stay and it was in that moment that I was lifted up.  I made the decision and my angels did the rest.  It was the only way for me to continue on and it wasn’t the easiest way either.  Easy would have been to close my eyes and say good night.  After I got up and walked to the bathroom, I looked at myself in the mirror and said in my Lisa Nichols voice “I’m still here.  I’m still standing.”  I know by whose power I am here and I am grateful for whatever time I have left that I can spend that time in spreading love and light.  That is my mission and I will spend every moment fulfilling it.  All my Frogger lives are not used up yet.  I love you.  Namaste